Featured Alumni & HAPA

Holly White HAPA ’12, “Truth over harmony… It never gets old, and it is always the best way through the muck.”

Holly White HAPA '12

We had the pleasure of catching up with HAPA Holly White, mother of Bryant Willing White (Woodstock 2012). Holly is the quintessential embodiment of what a Hyde School HAPA should be. Below Holly talks about everything from her career path to advice for fellow HAPA. Thank you, Holly, for your time and continued commitment!

Describe your career path.

I describe myself as a lucky explorer and expander of career opportunities. To be honest I am never certain I am doing exactly what I would be best at, and as such, have a keen eye out for a better way to leave my mark.  I was an average student and flew under the radar on all fronts.  I learned to be observant, nimble, and deliberate. But the icing on my career path was my competitive spirit.

Looking back now, the highlights are the glorious and generous mentors of my early years, and now my true partners and best of all, my precious mentees. I have been drawn to some, and others have sought me out… and together the combinations have made my journey rich in experience.

My first job out of college with the Muscular Dystrophy Association working with families impacted by neuromuscular disease, gave me my first taste of the impact of successful fundraising programs. I saw the money at work, serving families in need. Next stop was a fundraising agency, with great clients and also 80 hour weeks and oodles of creative energy and tactical elements that suited my personality. All great until I added “family” to my lexicon, and needed to get unconventional. For the next 18 years I worked from a home office (revolutionary at the time), and created a fundraising division under the roof of a great printing company serving dozens of nonprofits trying to get their message out. And for the last 13, as a key stakeholder at a project management firm serving the fundraising community. All whilst trying to balance family and other priorities.

Someone asked me recently “what are you proudest of in your career?” to which I answered without hesitation “I am proud of the way I crafted my employment arrangements in ways that suited my priorities …. Family and my own sense of fulfillment, growth and contribution”.

Which word or principle has stayed with you the most?

Truth over harmony… It never gets old, and it is always the best way through the muck.

Which teacher(s) had a particular impact?  

On me…

  • Pam Hardy – for her “tough love” and persistent search for the “heart of the matter”
  • Mark Duethorn – for his magnificence – in tribulation – in despair – and in the moments of truth and truce!
  • Kevin Folan – for circling back time after time to check on the White’s
  • Susie Racine – for her ever-present faith in Bryant

What advice might you give to a fellow HAPA?

To the Newly Inducted HAPA – treat yourself to seeing how far you have come by attending a regional meeting, or by signing up for SFW or FFW. You might be astonished when you see the next class of parents standing in your old shoes. You will be able to share your learnings, and in doing so, give them the resolve and support and tools along the way.

To the Reluctant HAPA – Take a sabbatical if you need one, but circle back because there is a genuineness in the experiences of all who studied at Hyde that helps keep the culture true to its commitment.

To the Veteran HAPA – Reconnect with someone you knew from your time at Hyde that you have lost touch with.  A parent, a faculty member, or a student. You’ll be amazed how easy it is to pick up where you left off.

Above all, be proud of YOUR diploma.

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Billy Procida ’07, “…it is important to [think freely] because that is how one establishes their own words and principles.”

We caught up with Hyde-Woodstock alumnus Billy Procida ‘07 from Brooklyn, NY. After having discovered his passion for the stage he is now pursuing a career as a stand-up comedian. He graciously, and very wittingly, answered a few questions for us:

Describe your career path.

While at New York University, I was peer-pressured onto a stage and accidentally fell in love with the attention, I mean, craft. For nine years, I’ve been performing stand-up comedy all around New York City and the country honing my craft and developing an act. I also stumbled into a career as a podcaster with my show The Manwhore Podcast: A Sex-Positive Quest for Love—recently named a top podcast by Esquire.com. I get to explore topics I’m passionate about like sexuality, gender equality, and comprehensive sex education every week while interviewing TV personalities, adult stars, and relationship experts. It all sounds super solid, but it’s really just me on Twitter in the back of a comedy club at midnight waiting to perform for 7 tired people on a Monday night. Just living the dream.

Which word or principle has stayed most with you?

Integrity, but I think that’s just because I’m really bad at lying.

Which teacher(s) had a particular impact?

Mark Duethorn encouraged his students to form their personal code of ethics. He reminded me to think and question. For years, I blindly obeyed the rules and did what I was told without thinking about why. Herr Duethorn in his Ethics class teaches Hyde seniors philosophy by having them question the establishment: Hyde, the government, societal norms. Mark taught me it is important to do that because that is how one establishes their own words and principles. He invites you into adulthood, and for many of us he was the first person to do so. And his invitations are crafted with outstanding calligraphy.

What advice might you give to a Hyde student?

Follow the rules because your old high school has rules, too. Follow the process because you wouldn’t be at Hyde if your process was working. But break just a couple of rules, because how else will we learn unless we put our hands on the stove?

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Dexter Lockhart Jenks ’10, “Hyde shows itself most in my work ethic”

Dexter Jenks

We caught up with Hyde-Bath alumnus Dexter Lockhart Jenks ’10 from Gorham, Maine. After having discovered his unique potential for singing and songwriting at Hyde, he is now pursuing a career in the creative industries. We asked him our usual four questions:

Describe your career path.

I graduated from the College of Charleston in 2014 with my Bachelor of Arts degree in Vocal Performance. I have been part of a touring rock band called South Street since I attended college. We have toured venues along the east coast as well as the US Virgin Islands. I will be moving to NYC to pursue a career in modeling, using this as a means to an end, the end being music, as always.

Which word or principle has stayed with you the most?

Hyde shows itself most in my work ethic. Time and time again, I walk into a room as the least experienced and least talented person. However, my work ethic that I achieved at Hyde has allowed me to keep up with and even surpass those around me. I let people see me struggle until I let them see me succeed.

Which teacher(s) had a particular impact?

Casey Mercer will always hold a place in my heart. She was my Spanish teacher and Discovery Group Leader. She arrived at Hyde the same year I did, and I watched her face her own life obstacles with and open and eager heart, which inspired me to follow in a similar fashion.

What advice might you give to a Hyde student?

High School is definitely not the pinnacle of your time on this earth. Don’t take yourself so seriously, and listen to those with more experience, A.K.A. your elders.

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